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Before we
begin, please note:
This web site considers the
term "Gay" to represent a
non gender specific label.
We feel that to segregate
issues into "Gay or
Lesbian"
designations is redundant.
It is clear that regardless
of being Male or Female,
when it comes right down to
it, the matter is about
people, individuals and
society. You will find no
intentional sexism on this
web site.
Age Appropriateness:
A child is never too young
to be told that a father,
mother, sibling, uncle, aunt
or anyone else is gay.
However, we do feel that the
reverse is unfair, and
irresponsible. In our
opinion, pre-pubescent
children should never be
asked to define themselves
within post-pubescent
standards.
are
you (gay)?
 As
we mention in
many areas of
this website,
before dealing
with the issue
of being gay, or
coming out - the
most important
thing in the
universe - is to
be sure that you
indeed ARE gay.
The last thing
we want you to
do, is to 'come
out' just
because it's a
trendy thing at
the time. And
believe it or
not, there are
MANY people who
claim to be gay,
just because
their friends
think it's
"Cool".
At some point in
everyone's life,
we question
ourselves. No,
not everyone has
questioned their
sexuality, but
MANY people
have. Some of
us have grown up
just knowing
who/what they
want sexually,
or for
companionship.
But in some
peoples lives,
religion,
upbringing, peer
attitudes, media
and mostly
parental
influence can
cause us to
second guess
ourselves.
Guilt is the
biggest thing
that most people
feel when they
realize or learn
that they are
gay. As a
result, they try
to find ways of
"searching for
the truth".
Hoping to find
some way to live
happily without
upsetting the
people they
love.
What about you?
Are you gay or
straight? Do
you even care?
First off... if
you are going to
label yourself,
it's important
that you know
exactly what
that label
means.
gay (g )
adj. gay·er, gay·est
- Of, relating to, or having a sexual orientation to persons of the same sex.
- Showing or characterized by cheerfulness and lighthearted excitement; merry.
- Bright or lively, especially in color: a gay, sunny room.
- Given to social pleasures.
- Dissolute; licentious.
n.
- A person whose sexual orientation is to persons of the same sex.
- A man whose sexual orientation is to men: an alliance of gays and lesbians.
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To help
you better
understand
weather or not
you are gay,
consider the
following:
(As always on
this site - we
only use "he"
because it takes
less time to
type.
Read it as a
"She" if it
applies to you.)
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Of
the
following
4
scenarios,
which
situation
would
you
say
demonstrates
a
clear
indication
that
you,
or
someone
else
is
gay?
The
answer
may
be
far
less
simple
than
you
think.
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 Scenario
#1 :
It's
the
day
before
the
big
school
dance,
or
company
party
-
and
you
need
a
date.
You've
looked
around
the
office
(or
classroom)
and
are
attempting
to
decide
who
to
ask.
Then
it
suddenly
dawns
on
you...
the
only
people
in
the
room
that
you
want
to
spend
any
time
with
are
of
the
same
sex
as
you. |
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Firstly,
what
is
your
motive
in
asking
that
person
to
accompany
you
to
the
dance?
If
you're
hoping
to
spend
time
holding
that
person
on
the
dance
floor,
or
maybe
walking
him
home
afterwards
and
stopping
for
a
while
to
make
out
at
the
lake
shore.
Then,
most
likely
you
are
gay.
On
the
other
hand...
perhaps
you
just
aren't
interested
in
members
of
the
opposite
sex
right
now,
and
would
rather
just
hang
out
with
a
friend
for
the
evening.
There
are
endless
reasons
why
someone
would
"write
off"
any
type
of
companionship
with
people
of
opposing
gender
for
a
short
period.
Some
people
seem
to
think
that
two
guys
(or
two
women)
aren't
allowed
to
ask
each
other
to
the
dance
without
sexual
motives.
Interestingly
enough,
I've
been
to
hundreds
of
dances
and
parties
where
a
pair
of
friends
will
arrive
together,
and
leave
together.
Very
few
of
these
guys
were
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Scenario
#2
:
You
wake
up
right
in
the
middle
of
an
orgasm.
Apparently,
while
 you
were
dreaming
-
you
were
masturbating
and
your
dream
was
about
naked
people
having
sex.
Of
course
YOU
were
one
of
the
naked
people.
You
then
realize
that
the
person
you
were
having
sex
with
was
of
the
same
gender.
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NEVER
allow
your
dreams
or
nightmares
effect
your
opinion
of
yourself
or
others.
Believe
it
or
not,
I
know
a
person
or
two
who
have
had
dreams
about
sex
with
animals
and
even
fictional
monsters.
The
thing
to
keep
in
mind,
is
that
- in
fact
- it
Is a
dream.
Unless
I
missed
the
press
release,
dreams
have
very
little
bearing
or
basis
in
conscious
reality.
In
other
words...
just
because
you
dreamed
it,
doesn't
mean
you
want
it.
Most
of
us
have
had
that
crazy
dream
about
being
naked
at
work,
or
at
school
-
but
you'd
never
do
it
in
reality.
Of
course,
I'm
sure
some
of
my
psychologist
friends
would
say
that
there
are
many
other
deep,
meaningful
messages
in
dreams
of
these
kinds.
But
I
highly
doubt
they
would
say
a
person
is
gay
just
because
they
had
a
gay
dream.
By
the
same
token,
if
gay
sex
is
the
only
sex
you
dream
about,
and
feel
rather
good
about
the
images
and
feelings
you
recall.
This
is
probably
a
strong
indication
that
you
are
gay. |
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 Scenario
#3 :
Yourself
and
a
friend
find
a
porn
magazine.
You
run
to
someplace
private,
and
spend
the
next
3
hours
reading
the
stories,
looking
at
the
pictures
and
making
fun
of
the
fake
expressions
on
the
models'
faces.
Thinking
back
later,
you
recall
that
the
pictures
were
mostly
of
the
opposite
sex.
Then
you
realize
that
the
only
ones
that
did
turn
you
on,
were
of
the
same
gender.
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THIS
is
likely
the
best
indicator
that
you
are
gay.
Direct
comparison
between
male
and
female
sexual
images
or
thoughts,
especially
when
combined
with
the
same
comparison
regarding
intimate
companionship.
(ie.
who
you
want
to
spend
your
life
with) |
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Scenario
#4 :
You're
17
years
old,
and
it's
your
first
big
 camping
trip.
7
carefree
days
with
5 of
your
closest
friends.
No
adults
to
dampen
your
fun,
just
you,
your
friends,
and
natures
endless
freedom.
On
the
second
night,
someone
shares
a
'joint',
and
the
entire
group
gets
very
stoned.
Then,
you're
all
sitting
around
the
camp
fire
during
one
of
those
silent
moments
when
everyone
is
staring
mindlessly
at
the
fire,
when
one
of
the
others
asks,
"Is
anyone
here
as
horny
as
me?"
After
the
initial
shock,
someone
says
"Yes".
Then
another,
and
before
you
know
it -
"Getting
Off"
has
become
the
topic
and
desire
on
everyone's
mind.
Later,
when
returning
from
a
trip
to
the
out-house
to
empty
your
bladder,
you
approach
the
campsite
to
find
3 of
your
friends
openly
masturbating
in
full
view
of
the
rest.
The
other
two
are
sitting
rather
close
to
each
other
with
their
hands
on
each
other's
genitals.
The
next
morning,
you
wake
up
with
your
best
friend
in
the
same
sleeping
bag,
with
one
leg
and
an
arm
draped
over
you.
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"I
had
a
gay
experience
with
my
best
friend,
I
must
be
gay".
This
is
easily
the
most
common
mistake
young
adults
or
children
will
make
with
regard
to
their
sexuality.
Remember
our
dictionary
definition
of
"Gay"?
Well...
I
realize
that
the
dictionary
doesn't
always
reflect
the
whole
story
when
it
comes
to
defining
something
as
complex
as
this,
here's
the
proof.
You
are
NOT
gay,
just
because
you
enjoy
sex
with
people
of
the
same
gender.
All
it
really
means,
is
that
you
enjoy
sex
with
people
of
the
same
gender.
I
sound
like
a
broken
record
there,
but
it's
true.
Being
gay
isn't
just
about
having
sex.
Everyone
enjoys
sex.
And
if
you
and
5
friends
can
help
each
other
enjoy
it
even
more
by
"lending
a
hand".
Then
again
-
that's
all
it
was.
6
people
enjoying
the
pleasures
of
sex.
People
aren't
defined
by
who
they
have
had
sex
with.
Just
like
I'm
not
defined
by
the
route
I
take
to
work
in
the
mornings,
and:
You
aren't
defined
by
the
type
of
music
you
enjoy.
And
being
honest
about
musical
taste
can
be
an
"outing"
all
in
itself.
When
you
enjoy
a
Garth
Brooks
song,
does
that
make
you
a
"Country
Music
Lover"
?
Or
when
I
listened
to a
Marilyn
Manson
cd,
did
that
define
me
as a
devil
worshipper?
I
should
think
not.
The
real
question
is,
"Is
that
the
only
type
of
music
you
want
to
hear?" |
The under-lying
point in all of
this is really
very simple. If
you wish to
spend your
quality
companionship
time and sexual
expression with
someone of the
same sex, and
have no impulse
or desire to
find a domestic
partner of the
opposite sex,
then you are
gay. You see...
there really is
no big mystery
or "gay
agenda". We
don't ask to be
gay, we just
are.
SO, What's the
next Step?
Explore the rest
of this web
site... we don't
have all the
answers, but I'd
bet we'll be
able to help you
find them. |
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